So the woman in my latest post
has started to wish for new qualities in her partner that do not exist
in her husband. She is no longer enchanted by what she used to love in
him, and this change of heart is creating new desires. As she feeds
these desires, they have to materialize in her life sooner or later, and
for this to happen, the man in her life has to go and be replaced by
another who has the qualities she wishes for. This woman does not
believe in herself or in her power of creation; she thinks that she is
just day dreaming while she keeps living with a man she no longer
interested in.
One day, she is shocked to see her life
unravelling in front of her eyes. The power of her thoughts is clearing
the old away to create a space for the new. Taking by “surprise” and
overwhelmed by what is happening, she would never believe that she has
created this. She feels disempowered and helpless. If she succumbs to
this feeling and to the negative thoughts that are swarming in her head,
the situation can go into a tailspin and move from bad to worse. But
the truth is, she can turn the situation around in whatever direction
she pleases if she extracts herself from the negativity of the
situation, and clear her mind.
To gain control of the situation,
she first needs to realize and acknowledge that she has created what she
is experiencing. She had a silent wish to change the relationship she
was in, and now it is happening, maybe not in the way she was hoping it
will be, but that is only because she didn’t believe that she can create
at will. What she is living at the moment is a point of confronting her
fears (we can also call these “conflicting thoughts”), which kept her
in an unsatisfactory relationship. These could be financial fears
because she does not believe that she can survive on her own, or related
to herself image, maybe she feel that she is too old to be desirable,
or she doesn’t want to be alone, etc. Whatever her dominant beliefs
about herself and her life are, these will be the factors she will have
to face when change happens. Acknowledging that all what she observes is
a creation of her programming and her thought process is a must,
because only then she would realize that if she has created this
situation, she can create anything else instead.
Most of us
consider daydreaming as a safe and easy way to fantasize about whatever
we wish for, after all, these thoughts have been confined to our heads
and we didn’t take any course of action to make them true. The leap
between mere thoughts and objective reality is too great for many to
believe that they are linked. When faced with a situation in concrete
reality, it is hard to trace the origin of that situation to thoughts
they had. But if we look closely at any situation we are facing, we will
see that every element of that situation conforms to what we believe
about the nature of that situation. If the woman is arguing that this is
the case because this IS the nature of life, then she is not getting
the point, and she does not yet believe that she is a creator in her
life.
After acknowledging
that she is the creator of that situation, she is now taking
responsibility of her life’s direction. She needs to be clear about what
she wants; the last thing in the world she wants to do is to create
opposing desires in her mind, which would only translate into an open
conflict in her life. So she has to spend some time focusing on what she
really wants. Did she lose all connections to her husband and she wants
to move on, or does she want to save her marriage and reignite the
spark they once had. These questions are not moral questions; there is
no one choice that is better than the other. All she needs to do is to
make a decision one way or the other, and make this her focal point of
creation. The only caveat she needs to remember is that fear-based
decisions don’t usually lead to the best of outcomes.
Whatever
path she chooses to follow, she had to commit herself to it fully. If
she decides to stay in her marriage, no matter what is going on in her
“reality”, she has to keep focusing on the positive parts on the
marriage, maybe she finds out that despite all his “quirks”, her husband
is still a great man. She has to bring the reasons that she cherish in
her marriage into her focus; she should only think of all the good
things that make her marriage a good one, focus on the best qualities of
her husband and remember the good times they have spent together. As
long as she can keep her mind focused on the positive aspects on her
marriage, and imagine how she wants to see it happily going forward, she
will find that the bad situation that engulfed her is gradually
dissipating and her life not only going back to normal, but being
happier than it was before. She should keep a watch out for any
conflicting thoughts that creeps into her mind, or better still use the
method to reprogram her mind to see only the positive and create from
it.
On the other hand, if she decides to move on and realize her
dreams with someone else. She should let go of the old relationship
without conflict; she should only focus on the positive in her head, and
not let the fears on the unknown takes over. What appears frightening
now, she will soon find out that it is never as bad as she have imagined
it as long as she keeps her mind positive. Creating a program for
herself and staying positive, even if it requires just watching
comedies, will bring her to where she want to go.
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